I had a very nice time last night. Saturday afternoon Icey and I slept late and didn’t really want to leave the house to be social. Nonetheless, once Icey had decided to skip derby practice today, that streamlined our plans a bit and we grabbed food before heading out to our first party, which was with the CCS roller derby team. We hung out there for a couple of hours (Icey got presents from the team and had a shot) and then headed to the Indy Poly Meetup Holiday party.
The Indy Poly Meetup Holiday party was a lot of fun. I got to see some friends I hadn’t seen in ages, and meet new fun people. I saw Daar and finally got to meet her husband C# and their very adorable kid. I teased Tojo that I never knew the centerpiece of his parties was tossing a stuffed dog around a circle for the amusement of a two-year-old. It was nice to see Salamander and Nivagi again as well – I need to steal them for D&D character creation soon.
After midnight the non-kinky people left and the holiday after-party began. Apparently Mika had metaphorically thrown Daar under the bus the night before, making her get beaten first (although Mika insisted Daar jumped in front of the bus herself!), so this time it was Mika’s turn to start things off. Tojo chained Mika to a chin-up bar and warmed up, which was interesting although a little odd – I’ve been dating Mika for over a year, but she only recently got into BDSM.
After Mika was sufficiently warmed up, DaddyChef took over. I’d not met DaddyChef or seen him work before last night, so it was fun and instructive to watch him and observe his technique. Mika seemed to be enjoying his efforts as well even though she’s not the hardcore painslut Daar is. Icey and I watched DaddyChef beat Mika with a variety of instruments, and then finally DaddyChef and Tojo took her down. I snuggled her and lightly rubbed her back while she recovered.
While Mika was coming down from her endorphin high, we watched DaddyChef give a Shibari demonstration with Daar as the model/test subject. DaddyChef was specifically showing Daar’s husband C# what he was doing, but all of us got to benefit from the instruction. Once Daar was beautifully tied up, DaddyChef added a harness and suspended her from the chin-up bar. He beat her a few times, but most of her experience was from the suspension itself.
Another couple at the party was very new to BDSM, but had become intrigued as the night wore on. They went outside and discussed their interests and limits, and when DaddyChef was free talked to him about introducing the wife to the experience of bottoming. I found this process very interesting to watch – DaddyChef introduced her to his toys and had them touch and feel them, and worked very slowly, introducing her to each new sensation and keeping her husband involved in the process.
Once DaddyChef had given the wife some sample whacks on her breasts, nipples, inner thighs, and panty-clad pussy, obviously and visibly turning her on, DaddyChef had her get on her hands and knees on the couch while he beat her ass. Since he couldn’t see her face, he had her signal with her hands if she wanted to continue, and her thumbs-up expressed her desire for more and more. At her request he beat her back as well, announcing to her husband that a new painslut had been born.
By this point it was getting very late, and Icey and I were trying to decide if we should play or leave. Mika really wanted us to stay, and I pointed out to Icey that we don’t often get opportunities anymore for her to bottom to a skilled top. Icey decided she did want to stay and play, and so after discussing her limits and requests with DaddyChef, she took off her bra, bracelet, necklace, and shirt, and allowed herself to be secured overhead to the chin-up bar by her wrists.
DaddyChef had asked me to spot for him, so Icey told me her safe word and DaddyChef said since he couldn’t see her face (since he was behind her), he was going to watch mine. I was to let him know immediately if Icey needed to stop. When Icey and I were ready, DaddyChef warmed Icey up slowly, and then beat her harder and harder with his floggers. I was focused on Icey’s face, watching her reactions, so I couldn’t pay as much attention to what DaddyChef was doing, although I could tell Icey was having a good time.
Icey hadn’t worked out a Slow Down/Yellow safeword, so when she needed a break for a moment all she could yell was “Stop!” which did make DaddyChef stop for a moment until he realized, “Hey! That wasn’t your safeword!” and start up again. Unfortunately, by trying to stand close enough to carefully monitor Icey meant I’d accidently limited her ability to move forward and back, making it difficult for her to self-adjust how hard she was being hit. Consequently she had to safeword sooner than she wanted.
Besides being a little frustrated she couldn’t play as long as she’d wanted (and slightly worried about somehow insulting DaddyChef by having to safeword), Icey said she’d had a really good time and enjoyed herself greatly. I snuggled Icey while she recovered, and then we retrieved her clothes and our coats from the bedroom before Tojo started warming up Daar for a proper beating by DaddyChef. We watched DaddyChef play with Daar a bit, but by then it was almost 6 AM, so we headed home.
It was a great night for me for many reasons. For one, I got to see people I haven’t seen in forever. I’ve been trying to get back into BDSM, and last night served as both inspiration and instruction. I’ve been feeling a little left out of Mika’s new BDSM explorations, so it was great to feel included in that aspect of her life. Finally, it’s just fun to watch two of my girlfriends get beaten by someone who knows what they’re doing, and to aspire to be the one holding the flogger in the future.